Staying together for the children is not always the best option. If you and your spouse in Indiana have attempted to work out your problems to no avail and find yourselves in constant conflict, the children might be more negatively impacted by these conflicts than by the divorce itself. In some cases, a divorce might be good for the children.
Space can make you better co-parents
If you get to the point that you feel nothing will help the relationship between you and your spouse and decide on divorce, you will both be leaving an environment that might make you feel trapped, exhausted and angry. Living in separate homes will provide space as you grow apart, limit negative interactions and decrease tension.
This, in turn, allows you and your spouse to figure out a different relationship as co-parents that focuses on raising your children. Having your own space allows you to grow as a person, to develop your interests and eventually to develop other romantic relationships. Meanwhile, you learn to work with your co-parent, communicating better, as you both commit to the children’s wellbeing.
Your children can learn from the divorce process
Divorce can be a positive learning opportunity for your children. Depending on how you and your spouse approach the divorce, your children learn from your modeling. Some of the positive things children can learn from their parents during divorce include:
- Resolving issues amicably
- Setting boundaries
- Knowing and respecting themselves
- Communicating positively
Creating a healthy living environment for children to thrive
Divorce usually means children having to split their time between their parents’ homes. However, when it means the absence of constant arguments, these two separate environments allow the children to live in calm, stable and supportive homes. A stable, positive environment is necessary for children to grow healthy and strong.
The decision to divorce is difficult, but staying together is not always best for the children. It can help to carefully consider how your struggling relationship is affecting your children if you are not sure about your divorce.