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Tips on co-parenting with a narcissist

On Behalf of | Jul 5, 2022 | Child Custody & Visitation

If you are an Indiana resident and have gone through a split or divorce from a narcissist, it should bring relief. However, if you have children with your ex, you might be stuck having to co-parent with them. These tips can help.

Accept the situation

Being ordered by the court to co-parent with a narcissist means that you have no choice but to accept the situation. No doubt, things will be challenging, but you will have to work through it and be strong for the sake of your children.

Set clear boundaries

Setting clear boundaries is important when you have to co-parent with your narcissistic ex. Make sure they understand what’s acceptable and what you won’t accept when they have their time with the kids and when dealing with you. Never let them cross the line of what you find acceptable. When given the opportunity, your ex will take full advantage and take control of the situation.

Create a parenting plan

Although it’s next to impossible to co-parent with a narcissist, you will have to take the initiative and create a parenting plan. Decide how you’ll pick up and drop off the children, how you will discipline them, what to expect during holidays and all free time your kids have and write it all down. Make sure your ex signs the plan.

Keep communication limited

You’ll have to communicate with your ex while co-parenting with them, but you can keep it limited. Calls and texts might become overwhelming, so you might want to strictly use email for your communication.

Don’t engage them if they try to argue

Narcissists love to encourage fights. If your ex tries that with you, don’t engage them. Remain calm and only say what you need to for the sake of your children.